THE FOUR ELEMENTS OF A BALANCED RELATIONSHIP
E - EMOTIONAL:
SECURITY
•	Expressing feelings
•	Rearranging language patterns
•	Trust
•	Taking Responsibility
•	Associating with healthy friends
•	Clear communication

P -PHYSICAL:
ENERGY
•	Eating right
•	Exercising
•	Touching
•	Sharing
•	Eye to Eye contact
•	Trust

M-MENTAL:
WISDOM
•	Listening
•	Patience
•	Reading, writing, visualizing
•	Creative problem solving
•	Learning new skills
•	Peaceful surroundings
•	Showing unconditional love: Affirmation, Appreciation & Acceptance

S-SPIRITUAL:
GUIDANCE
•	Meditation
•	Fasting
•	Prayer
•	Faith (F-A-I-T-H)
•	Balance within
•	Feeling safe
•	Trusting God

THE FOUR ELEMENTS THAT CAUSE FAILURE IN A RELATIONSHIP

D-DEFENSIVENESS:
DENIAL
•	Denying responsibility
•	Keeping at arm's length
•	Standing one's ground aggressively
•	Holding one's own
•	Helplessness
•	Vulnerability

W-WITHDRAWAL:
SECLUSION
•	Tuning out
•	Frigidness
•	Seclusion
•	Holding back
•	Feeling alone
•	Turn a cold shoulder

C-CONTEMPT:
ARROGANCE
•	Snub
•	Looking down upon
•	Snap one's finger at
•	Roll eyes or toss head
•	Laugh to scorn
•	Woe is me

C-CRITICISM
JUDGMENT
•	Fault finding
•	Nitpicking
•	Bad mouth
•	Abrasiveness
•	Corrosiveness
•	Attaching
•	Negative energy